Letting Go of Hurt

I have spent the past few weeks feeling hurt and have allowed bitterness and resentment permeate my soul because of a family member’s actions on Facebook.  I won’t post the details on here in case that family member happens to read it, but basically it boils down to my brother and I got snubbed in pictures and it’s just a continuation of being snubbed and treated like “The Others”.

It finally dawned on me that this person has no idea what they did and they are living their life the same way they always have and meanwhile here I am sitting in misery wondering what the heck I did to deserve this.  What kind of crap is that??

Letting go of resentment, bitterness, anger, hurt, etc., is very, very, VERY difficult.  But it’s very, very, VERY healthy.  It has nothing to do with the person who wronged you, but everything to do with you.  Forgiveness is like a gift to yourself saying, “It’s okay…you can let this burden go.”  And, in the end, it truly is a burden being let go.

So, with all of that being said, I’m going to try hard to let it all go.  If my family member is going to continue to live their life and continue to do the things they do, I can’t change that.  But I CAN change the way I react and take the hurts and snubs and etc.  So….here’s to letting go.

Letting Go and Moving On

Sometimes things happen out of the blue and you end up losing baggage that you didn’t even know that you had.  You know what I’m talking about….that feeling of “ahhhh” and “what the heck just happened?” all at the same time.  The same happened to me recently and I’m still not quite sure what happened, but I’m very glad that it did.  It’s a confusing state of thoughts and emotions.

What’s interesting is that this event caused me to take a long look at my life and it helped me to realize that I’m living a lie.  I’ve been doing a disservice to myself and to everyone else by being fake and trying to be unlovable in order to keep people away from me.  Basically I tried to made sure people didn’t like me on my terms instead of on their terms.  What a miserable way to live, let me tell you.  So not only did I lose the baggage that I mentioned above, but it’s time to lose the baggage of the lies that I’m living.

I don’t know if anyone else is going through something like my own self-realization, but maybe one single person out there is.  And maybe one single person out there needs to hear this:  it’s okay.  It’s okay to finally let go and live and be who you’re meant to be.  If people don’t like the real and true you then they’re not really worth being in your life anyway.  As Oprah Winfrey says, “Surround yourself with only people who are going to lift you higher.”  Here’s to you and me, my friend.

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